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Using the Law of Attraction to Create a Stress-Free Life


A Complete Guide to Using the Law of Attraction

The Law of Attraction allows for infinite possibilities, infinite abundance, and infinite joy. It knows no order of difficulty, and it can change your life in every way if you let it.

Free Guide to Learn to Use the Law of Attraction in Your Life

At this very moment, your life is being guided and influenced by universal forces you may not even be aware of – and the most powerful of all is the Law of Attraction. Just like the law of gravity, it is always in effect, impacting your life in more ways than you can imagine.

The good news is, once you are aware of this universal law, you can learn how to use it to change your life for the better! Because here’s the thing: You are in a constant state of creation.

Every moment of every day, you are actively creating your reality. With every thought, either consciously or subconsciously, you are creating your future. And when you know how to harness the power of the Law of Attraction in your life, you can direct your thoughts and actions in a way that allows you to effortlessly attract what you want.

Many people, when they first hear about this universal law, dismiss it as “woo.” So if you have doubts about whether it really works, you’re certainly not alone! I often get questions from people who wonder what the Law of Attraction is and are skeptical about the claims they’ve heard. And I’m going to tell you what I always tell them:

This guide will walk you through the process of using this powerful universal law and show you how to manifest what you want in every area of your life. I’ll teach you about the 7 Laws of Attraction (that’s right, there are more than one) and the 3 proven steps to activate it in your life. You’ll also learn how to use it for different purposes, such as attracting more wealth or love into your life.

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What is the Law of Attraction?

The law of attraction is a universal principle that states you will attract into your life whatever you focus on. Whatever you give your energy and attention to is what will come back to you.

When you focus on the abundance of good things in your life, you will automatically attract more positive things into your life. But if you center yourself on negative thoughts and only focus on what you lack in life, then you will ultimately attract negativity into your life and what you want most will continue to elude you.

What is the Law of Attraction

The 7 Laws of Attraction

#2 The Law of Magnetism

The Law of Magnetism states that everything that has happened in your life – the people, things, and opportunities that have come into your life, as well as the circumstances in which you have found yourself – is a result of the energy you put out into the world.

#3 The Law of Unwavering Desire

The Law of Unwavering Desire states that your desire to achieve or attract a certain thing must be strong and unyielding in order for you to manifest it in your life. When your desires are weak and without a rock-solid foundation, they won’t be able to attract what you want.

#4 The Law of Delicate Balance

The universe is comprised of balance—between various forces and elements. And as we are microcosms of the universe, we also crave balance. When the different aspects of your life are in balance, you are able to experience true peace and joy. But in order to achieve balance, appreciation and gratitude are required.

#5 The Law of Harmony

The Law of Harmony describes the coordinated interplay of forces and elements that comprise the Universe. Harmony is the flow of life. When you are in tune with it, everything seems easy, as if you are swimming with the current rather than against it.

#6 The Law of Right Action

The Law of Right Action states that your words and actions affect the world around you and determine the quality of your experiences in life. How you behave and treat others will determine how others treat you.

#7 The Law of Universal Influence

It’s easy to feel small and insignificant when staring up at the stars at night. But the truth is, every one of us is an integral part of the Universe. We make an impact on the world with everything we think and do. Our energy vibrations become a part of the fabric of the Universe.

That’s why it’s so important for you to be aware of your thoughts, feelings, and actions—as well as signs from the Universe— to demonstrate the impact of your actions and point you in the direction of your dreams.


Iterations of the law of attraction principle go back to ancient (even Biblical) times, but the root concept that is referenced today emerged during the 19th century as part of the New Thought movement.  

The idea wasn't referred to as the "law of attraction" until 1877 when a Russian occultist named Helena Blavatsky used the term to describe the powerful energy between different elements of the human spirit.   In 1886, Prentice Mulford wrote a popular essay about the law of attraction (which he called The Law of Success).  

In his 1897 book, "In Tune With The Infinite," Ralph Trine wrote that the law of attraction "works universally on every plane of action, and we attract whatever we desire or expect. If we desire one thing and expect another, we become like houses divided against themselves, which are quickly brought to desolation."  

Ralph Trine, "In Tune With The Infinite" (1897)

The concept continued to be written about and touted by philosophers, self-help authors, and motivational speakers well into the 21st century. In 2006, the law of attraction formed the basis for Rhonda Byrne's film and subsequent bestselling book, "The Secret."

Exercises to Try

The law of attraction is widely regarded as pseudoscience. However, it uses several actual psychological techniques, such as cognitive reframing and visualization, that help people think differently about their circumstances.

List Your Frustrations

Think of the Positives

Next, start a journal. For each frustration on your list, think of every possible positive aspect of the situation. For example, the benefits of your difficult job might be steady income, creative challenge, or personal growth.

You could then see your job as a vehicle for expanding your level of patience. If not, you might find that the job's purpose is to bring you valuable information about what is not working in your life.

It might be that the positive outcome of the negative experience you're having at your job is that you leave it to pursue a career that is better suited to your talents and skills.

Write or Visualize Your Wishes

Once you've listed the things you don't want in your life, write down what you would like to have. Your list isn't just for putting the positive energy out into the world that you want to get back; it will also help you clarify your goals.

Building and maintaining a visual image of what you want in your life (instead of focusing on what you don’t want) can be a powerful way to attract positive change and opportunity.

You can also practice "manifesting" what you want. It could be something as simple as having a particular flower for your garden. Take time to create a vivid image in your mind of what the flower would look like in your yard, how it would smell, and how it would feel in your hands gathered up in a bouquet.

Maintain a Positive Attitude

Having a positive attitude is about more than putting a smile on your face; it means working on feeling grateful for what you already have, and for what you believe will come. Shift your focus from what you feel you lack toward feelings of gratitude and abundance.

You can also strengthen your positive mindset by sharing your goals, dreams, and intentions with others. Spreading your positivity to your loved ones also allows you to get and give support.

The most important part of manifesting is letting it go. By doing so, you free yourself from the worry of whether or not it will appear in your life and open yourself up to the possibility that it might.

Think, Feel, Act

Try to keep your thoughts, feelings, and behavior focused on your goals rather than on your frustrations. You can do this by using positive self-talk, visualizing the life you want each day, working on your plan of action, and spreading kindness and doing good deeds.

Advantages of Using the Law of Attraction

You may become a lucky person.

While you can’t be specific about the things or people you manifest with the LOA, Concha says you can increase your chances of getting it. You can manifest experiences, opportunities, people, and objects,” she explains. “Think back to a time where you have wanted something or thought of a situation and it has happened? Some people will call it ‘luck’ but it’s simply the LOA in motion.”

Using it could help ground you.

Looking for a complete mental overhaul? Concha explains that the LOA could be just that. "Once you understand how the LOA works, your whole outlook will change,” she says. “You realize that it’s up to you to live the life you truly deserve, you don’t have to settle for less. You can manifest your dream life with ease and flow. You will become more in-tune and grounded with yourself. It’s a game-changer.”

Disadvantages of Using the Law of Attraction

Before you rush off to find your journal and get started, there’s a couple of things you should know, as the LOA has some disadvantages, too. Ahead of trying it, be sure to heed this expert-backed advice.

You can attract negativity.

So, you’re obsessing over someone you know is toxic. According to the LOA, that could be a dangerous game to play. If you’re letting someone live rent-free in your mind, chances are, you may be attracting them into your life. You’ve got to make sure you are aware of your thoughts,” says Concha. “The LOA doesn’t judge what you’re thinking about. Whatever you give attention to whether it's ‘good’ or ‘bad’, you will invite it into your life. See yourself as a magnet attracting the essence of what you are thinking and feeling.”

Unfortunately, it’s not magic.

Want to attract a million dollars? We have some bad news. Contrary to what you may have heard, the LOA is not a magical force primed to do your bidding. “If you are feeling unhealthy, you cannot attract health,” says Concha. “If you feel poor, you cannot attract prosperity because it defies the law.”